Added: 08-03-2011

Author: kizzedadmin

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Categories: BDSM Dating


Excellent is an alternative adult dating site for BDSM and fetish fans as well as anyone interested in these either as a lifestyle or not scared to experiment. Whatever kinks and fantasies you might have, you’ll likely find a lot of similar-minded people on

The sign-up process is easy and fast. You can sign up as a single person, a couple or even a group. There’s also an option for TS/TV/TG members. Then you have to select who you’re looking to meet, and the usual information like your location and a username. You will also have to fill out some information about your lifestyle (smoker / drinker etc) and sexual preferences. You can choose to do most of that later if you wish, so you can jump in without taking time to flesh out your profile. Finally, your password will be e-mailed to the address you entered. Don’t forget to activate your account using the link in the welcome e-mail.

As soon as you log-in for the first time you’ll be presented with the upgrade options. Don’t worry though – you’re welcome to look around before you decide if it’s worth upgrading or not. The cost is a reasonable $20 / month, and you can save some money by paying for several months in advance. The payment options accepted are also the standard credit card, direct debit or money order.

While the site has a lot of features and might be a bit confusing to new members, once you get used to it, you’ll appreciate all the control and possibilities it offers. The first thing you should do is fill out your profile, giving as much information about yourself as you feel comfortable. Do not share your personal details like your address, but do fill out the fields about your sexual orientation, physical attributes, languages spoken and the like. This will maximize your chances to find a good match. Take special care when answering questions about your fetishes! BDSM play is all about trust between the partners. It’s very important to have compatible interests. caters to literally tens of different fetishes from master/slave play to doctor/nurse fetish, bondage, crossdressing, adult baby diaper lovers and public sex. Whatever you’re interested in, chances are you will find users who are into the same thing. Just make sure you select your preference (giving / receiving / watching etc) correctly. You can fill this out by clicking the “Fetish Checklist” link in your members area.

Other features of the site include regular chat rooms that everyone can use, and video chat that’s available for upgraded members only. There’s also an on-site mailing system, and, of course, a sophisticated search engine that helps you find people by their sex, location, level of experience with BDSM and alternative lifestyle, role (dominant, submissive or switch) and tens of other characteristics – most of which, again, will only be available for Gold or Silver users. also has sexy photo and video galleries where you can watch kinky videos uploaded by members. The site is more focused on meeting people than homemade porn videos, however.

I’ve already mentioned upgrades earlier in my review. The thing is, you’ll want to get one if you are serious about using this site to meet new people. As a free member, all you can do is fill out your profile and reply to e-mails (but not initiate conversations). However, there’s one place you CAN meet new people as a free member, and that’s the chatroom. Get to know the active members and then ask them for a 1 on 1 conversation. You just might get lucky! Take note that you can get a completely free 2 week Silver upgrade if you simply confirm your ID to prove that your profile is real.

The community at is large, although like in many other dating sites, men outnumber women at a ratio of at least 2 to 1. You may encounter some fake profiles every now and then, but you shouldn’t worry. has a built-in ID verification system, so you can simply choose to pay attention only to verified, real profiles. They have some really hot girls and guys, and even if you’re not experienced in BDSM just like me, they’ll be more than willing to show you the ropes, pun intended.

If you’re looking for an alternative adult dating site with a big and active BDSM community, you should definitely check out Sign up as a free member and get 2 week upgrade just for confirming your profile – then use this time to decide whether this site is for you or not.


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